I must admit this week’s filming threw me off, unlike the previous two weeks, I struggled with the film and felt lost throughout.
Firstly, I have no experience with the Pakistani culture, and I think the only thing I can tell you about them is that they like cricket.
Where my mind goes when I hear Pakistan… source
So leading into the viewing of Cake (2018), I had zero expectations and yet somehow I was still shocked with what I watched. I found it hard to follow, it was slow and long, but the end was quick and changed genre multiple times; honestly I never really knew what was going to happen, some of the plot twists were straight up bizarre.
I sat thinking “if this were in English would this be easier?”, but I honestly don’t know with all the little side bits, it would still have been a lot to follow.
Having said this, I don’t want to make it out to be bad though, because parts of it were lovely, but I don’t know if I necessarily gained anything from the film- but also maybe live tweeting at the same time didn’t help?
The tweets below just show a few times when I felt confused but then also became aware.
As the previous two weeks I found the easiest concept to focus on and relate to was: family.
However, this family still had so many differences that I personally struggled with.
There was a lot of tension surrounding the siblings which was strange to me. There are 3 siblings, a brother and two sisters who are not close anymore as they have grown up and into different career and life paths- also living in different countries. I have a brother with whom I am close, even though we are opposites- and live in different countries. We do not fight and speak regularly. This siblings were not in constant communication and have strained relationships.
I was surprised because I have always imagined family as a valuable aspect to all cultures, particularly the Asian, upon research I found typically Pakistan families generally rely on their relatives more than anyone and that family, even extended, holds great significance. Naturally, I wondered why this film portrayed the family as strained, and if I’m totally honest I am still a little unsure. It is because not every family is perfect, so we need to see families in our media that show it is okay to have issues? Challenging social norms is a strong issue at the moment, so perhaps this is where the director wanted us to go?
Moving from the sibling to parent relationships, to see if I can gain some clarity from this area…
I have been blessed to grow up in a house where my parents have been married for 30+ years, they met and married as teenagers and have never left each other’s side since. This is how I have always imagined love and family. So for this movie, my interest honed in on the parents, celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary whilst dealing with children and health issues, and ultimately death.
This is how I would imagine my parents to be in 20 years, overly protective of one another, still having good times though and their biggest drama is who snores more (BTW I still think it’s Dad). So I would say this is the part of the movie I connected with the most, there was a sense of ease and honesty in the relationship, and typically Pakistani marriages are arranged, with often leads with the connotation that they aren’t necessarily ‘true’ and ‘loving’, it is unclear whether this marriage began as an arranged marriage, but it is clear that they are in love, even after so many years and children. The father demanding still having an anniversary party, whilst his wife is sick, goes to show the level of commitment, he refuses to suggest she is gone because he won’t let go of that love.